Finding Ways To Keep Up With Parenting

Managing Separation Anxiety as a Parent

Bearing and rearing your own child from birth is not just an important milestone in adult life that many people only dream of, as most of all, children can be our source of joy, pride, and fulfillment throughout their lives with us and even beyond that. While it is true that looking after your newborn is truly challenging and exhausting especially in the initial months where their sleeping pattern is typically irregular, having to go away after being with them for months can be an emotional challenge not just for the baby but also for parents.

Being separated from your child is something inevitable especially for mothers who need to go back to their work after their maternal leave, and although it is already difficult for parents already, children can suffer more when it comes to separation anxiety issues, sometimes even leading to traumatic experiences. While it is of course unavoidable unless you have the luxury and resources to be a full time parent, parents can always do some steps to lighten the burden of anxiety and make each instance of separation acceptable for their children in order to turn it into a regular routine that they can eventually accept and not have to keep worrying about.

During their developmental stage in the first year of life, playing peek-a-boo with babies help them to understand that something or someone that goes away can come back, which is also important since this is also the stage where they start to build trust with people around them. If you know you will be gone for quite some time away from your baby, planning their care with a caregiver or relative you trust must be done as it is also important that they are left with a person they already know and trust too so that they can be comforted when needed once you are away and they begin to show signs of anxiety.

Speaking to them with a calm voice along with a reassuring body language is also helpful to put them at ease and for them to slowly understand the reason you need to be separated from them temporarily, no matter what age they are in. Allowing them to stay in a place they are already quite familiar with will also mean a lot especially when they have their favorite toys or baby comforters around them to keep them entertained and help them sleep better when they need it.

It is important to understand that trust plays a big role in addressing anxiety problems related to separation, not only between parent and child but also with the babysitter they will be left with. A couple of days or weeks before you actually love, practicing with your baby can give you a better idea of how they will really handle the situation, which will also allow you to see potential issues before they even happen or get worse.